Assess Your Stress

Assess Your Stress

If your stress gets out of control or lasts for too long, it can have a negative affect on your mental health. For each question choose: often, sometimes or never.

-I am able to laugh and feel enjoyment.

-I am happy with my life right now.

-I have a good friend.

-I sleep well and wake up feeling refreshed.

-I have an adult in my life that I feel I can talk to.

-I have time to do the things I like to do.

-I think I am a good friend to others.

-I like the way I look.

-I feel hopeful most of the time.

-I follow the Canada Food Guide for healthy eating.

If you have checked never in four questions or more, it may be time to assess your stress. For tips on how to do this, go to http://www.amhb.ab.ca or talk to your school counsellor!

Another great resource for identifying and managing stress in children can be found at

www.cccf-fcsge.ca/wp-content/uploads/RS_19-e.pdf

Bullying

Bullying is a conscious, willful, deliberate and repeated hostile activity marked by an imbalance of power, intent to harm, and/or a threat of aggression.

Bullying occurs whenever there exists:
-repeated and consistent negative action against another
-an imbalance of power (physically, verbally or socially) between the child who bullies and the target
-contrasting feelings between the child who bullies and the target as a result of the bullying episode (the child who bullies may feel excited, powerful or amused while the target feels afraid, embarrassed or hurt).

Bullying Awareness Websites:

www.bullyfreealberta.ca
www.nobully.org

www.bullybeware.com
www.bullying.org
www.cyberbullying.ca
www.easingtheteasing.com
www.stopbullyingme.ab.ca
www.teasingvictims.com
www.bullyfreealberta.ca
www.teamheroes.ca
www.b-free.ca
www.sacsa.ca - Safe and Caring Schools

Things you can do if you are being bullied:

Stay Calm - bullies love a reaction
Steer Clear - avoid the bully
Don’t Fight Back - you may get hurt or may escalate the situation
Avoid Vulnerable Situations - walk in groups, don’t be alone in hallways etc
Stay in Site of Teachers - bullies don’t like an audience who can stop them
Don’t Get Mad - use humor
Think of Things to Say Ahead of Time - roleplay
Project Confidence
Don’t be Afraid to Tell People You Trust - adults can help
Never Give Out Personal Information Online
Don’t Reply to Messages from Cyberbullies
Don’t Erase or Delete Messages from Cyberbullies - it is evidence

Bullying incidents are always about issues of power and control and can be direct/overt or indirect/covert

CyberBullying

The Internet and other technologies have created a whole new world of social communications for young people who are using e-mail, websites, instant messaging and chat rooms to stay in touch with friends and make new ones.    The majority of these new social networking opportunities is positive and offer great potential for expanding our understanding of others.   However, these new technologies have created new opportunities to bully others.

It is important that all members of our community be aware of cyber bullying and understands what they can do about it.   Cyberbullying is the use of technology to support deliberate, hostile and hurtful behaviour towards an individual or group of individuals.   There are several ways that people bully others online.   Here are a few examples: 

  • Sending e-mails or instant messages containing insults or threats directly to a person
  •  Spreading hateful comments about a person through e-mail, instant messaging or posting on websites and blogs.
  • Sending/posting  pictures with derogatory comments through e-mails or social networking sites
  • Stealing passwords and sending out threatening e-mail or instant messages under another person’s identity
  • Building websites to target specific people. 

 The statistics are alarming.  One in four Grade 7 students in an Alberta study reports being a victim of cyberbullying.   An additional concern is that the anonymity of online communications means teens feel freer to do things online they would never do in the real world.

What do teens need to know?  

  1. Guard your contact information.  
  2. Be very careful about giving people you don’t know your cell phone number, instant messaging name or e-mail address.

If you’re being harassed on-line:

  • Tell an adult you trust.
  • Block the sender’s messages.  Do not reply.
  • Keep the messages so that they can be referred to an appropriate agency (Internet Service Providers, cell phone services providers, social networking site managers).

If the bullying involves threats call the police.Teens need to take a stand against all forms of bullying.  Speak up when you see any form of harassment. 

What do parents need to know?

Most cyberbullying occurs when adults aren’t around.To help prevent cyberbullying:

  • Talk to your kids about what they are doing online (where do they go on-line, monitor their personal home pages and social networking sites). 
  • Teach them to never post or say anything on the Internet that they wouldn’t want the whole world - including you - to read.
  • Encourage your kids to come to you if anybody says or does something online that makes them feel uncomfortable or threatened.

If your child is being bullied online, take action:

  • Watch out for signs that your child is being bullied online - a reluctance to use the computer or go to school may be an indication.
  • If the bully is a student at your child’s school, meet with school officials and ask for help in resolving the situation.
  • Report any incident of online harassment and physical threats to your local police and your Internet Service Provider (ISP).
  • If your child is bullied through a cell phone, report the problem to your phone service provider. If it’s a persistent problem, you can change the phone number.

Additional websites: